When you go through a divorce/separation – it can be a very stressful and difficult time.
Not only is your family breaking up – it can also feel like the death of all your hopes, dreams and joint aspirations – regardless of who has initiated it.
As well as that – something deeper happens to you, which doesn’t really come to light until much later.
As your head hits that pillow for the first time after your separation, 3 things go through your mind:
- The thought that – once I was an ‘I’; I then became ‘We’, ‘Us’, ‘Our’; and now I am back to an ‘I’. And so begins an identity crisis.
- As mentioned above, all of your hopes, your dreams, your combined aspirations and plans are left shattered and strewn all over the ground. A boulevard of broken dreams. And as you metaphorically get back up and start to walk around, you can’t help but cut your feet on the glass. A bloody reminder of all that you have lost.
- If your children are not living with you, or you have not seen them for a while – their silence is deafening.
These 3 things, when left unchecked and uncared for – can usually lead you down a path of clinical depression, anxiety, stress and in the worst of cases, attempts of self-harming or suicidal thoughts.
And by self-harming, we don’t simply mean visible physical damage – we mean behaviours that lie just beneath the surface, for example maybe just drinking a bit more than usual, having unprotected or risky sexual relations, or even relying on recreational or illegal drugs – just to get you through. In other words medicating your sadness.
Add to this, if your separation becomes acrimonious or hostile – then your mental health will rapidly deteriorate. And if you’re employed – your performance at work could suffer.
Therefore it is incumbent on you, and of course your children – that not only is your physical health and diet/nutrition important – but above all – your Mental Health is crucial.
And so at Dads Unlimited, we are able to provide you with your very own Counsellor – who will see you immediately. There are no waiting lists or delays if you need help.
And if you are on a low income, we operate a means tested, graduated fee scheme – so that no matter who you are or whatever the size of your purse – you will never be at a disadvantage.
Dads Unlimited is THE only charitable organisation to offer this service.
So what are you waiting for – get in touch – our Counsellor can see you now.